Forgiveness

What do you do when somebody hurts you? Do you want to hurt him back or do you hold it against that person for the rest of your life? If you answer yes to these questions, know that you are like most people. To forgive is something that people generally have difficulty with.

Why don't people forgive readily? Here's why, because it is easier to hate than to forgive. Some people think to forgive is a sign of weakness, but let me tell you, it is not. To forgive takes courage and extra effort.

What is forgiveness? It is a gift from a generous heart. Forgiveness is not a reward. It is not something that you give to someone based on his good behavior. It is something that you give to a person irrespective of whether he has deserved it or not. Forgiveness is also not based on whether the person has asked for forgiveness.Also know this. Forgiveness is not an event, which starts and concludes when you say the words, "I forgive you". Forgiveness is an act and a process, which often takes time. The deeper your hurt the longer it usually takes to completely forgive. It is an act because it is not just the words you say but it is your actions which will show if you've really forgiven.

A fine example of someone who embodies true forgiveness is former South African president Nelson Mandela. Mandela was imprisoned by the former all-white South African government for 27 years. Upon his release Mandela surprised the whole world when he showed no bitterness towards his jailers. That is truly remarkable.

Why is it necessary to forgive? Forgiveness releases you from the burden of bitterness and hate. It takes enormous energy to hate and to keep that hate in place. Forgiveness brings freedom whereas revenge is neither sweet nor gratifying, its just a hollow feeling.

Hate puts unnecessary stress on your body. It is a well-known fact, proven by numerous studies, that bitterness and hate can actually make you sick. A great number of people in the world don't really belong in a hospital, because the root of their problem is not physical but is mental. The moment they forgive and let go of their hate they will start to get well.

There is another reason why you need to forgive. If you don't forgive you actually prevent blessings from flowing to you. The Bible says that before you pray for anything first forgive those who wronged you, and then your Father in heaven will forgive you your wrongs. So there you can see that blessings are closely connected to your forgiving others.

I have personal experience of this. I used to be very cynical about life and didn't forgive easily. At the time I also struggled in every area of my life. Things just didn't seem to work out for me. It is as if everything that could go wrong, always went wrong. That was until somebody told me to take a look at my attitude. And when I forgave those who wronged me and changed my attitude, everything else changed. It didn't happen overnight. It took a while, but I could see and feel the difference.

Now you may ask how do you know when you've really forgiven someone? Here's the key. If after you've "forgiven" that person you still experience a negative sting whenever you think of him or her, it means you still have work to do. If however you don't have negative feelings towards that person it means you are free.Are things not working out in your life, despite you doing all the "right" things? Is it possible that you have unforgiveness in your heart? It is certainly something to think about!

Gift of Life

One little boy came up to his mother and handed her a piece of paper. After his mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it:-

For cleaning up my room this week Rs.05.00- Baby-sitting for my kid brother Rs.10.00- For going to the store for you Rs.02.00- Taking out the garbage Rs.00.50- For getting a good report card Rs.10.00- For helping in kitchen Rs.00.25 Total owed: Rs.27.75

His mother looked at him standing there, expectantly. She picked up the pen, turned the paper over and wrote:-

Nine months I carried you while you were inside me : No Charge- The times I’ve sat with you, doctored and prayed for you : No Charge- For all the tears that you’ve caused through the years : No Charge- For all the nights that were filled with dread and the worries : No Charge I know were ahead- For the toys, food, cloth, and even wiping your nose, there’s : No Charge- And when you add it all up, the full cost of real love is : No Charge

When the son finished reading what his mother had written there were great big tears in his eyes. He looked straight at his mother and said, "Mom, I sure do love you." And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote, "PAID IN FULL".

Love-filled actions should always be unconditional.

Always Be True to Yourself

Always be true to yourself!

Never attempt to delete those words in your heart and mind.
For they are a valuable treasure, that can aid and lead you
To understand who you are.

Always be true to yourself!

Never be afraid to accept who you are.
Think positively and believe in yourself
So you can be able to accept and appreciate who you are.

Always bear in mind you are a unique individual.
Created by the loving hands of the Almighty God.
He created you with special purpose, to plant and spread seedsOf your uniqueness and productivity in this land.

Always be true to yourself!

Never be discouraged or afraid of negative comments or feedback.
Welcome them with an open-mind, for these can also help and guide you
To become a well-grown individual.

If you have an enemy, remember never to hate him.
When you hate him, you give him power over you.
Power over your thinking, your sleep, your health and happiness.
Your hatred is not hurting him at all;
It only turns your days and nights into a hellish turmoil.

Always be true to yourself!

Remember the best strategies to deal an enemy -
Prayer, love, forgiveness, humility, open-mindedness,reconciliation, smile, tactfulness, and service.
Start now to apply those precepts in yourself,
So you can be able to win favor from GodAnd live at peace with your enemy.
As you travel in the games of life,Always remember to think innovation of your being.

For that's the one and only key to excel in this land.
Remember that a gifted man will stand before kings,
A simple man will serve the skilled and kings!
Therefore, always be true to yourself!

Remember God love you so much!He cares and believes in you!
That's why,ALWAYS BE TRUE TO YOURSELF!

Woman in me

Hii Friends !!..I read this poem in some blog.. and I was deeply touched by the beautiful lines.. thought of sharing with u all

THE WOMAN IN ME

SHE often asks mewhen can she be free
she asks me if a day would ever comewhen she can be her true self..
when she can actually show the world what she is the day when she no longer pretends..
she asks me if such a day would come
when she no longer fears to test her limits..
when she no longer would be afraid to venture out alone at any hour of the day..
she asks me if i can assure her that she is safe and secure
and there is no one waiting to bruise her soul which is free of malice and pure...
she is afraid of the glares and comments..
the remarks often thrown at herat almost every street and round evey corner
those diabolic eyes of those scorpions ready to bite herscare her even more...
and she asks me whether a day would come
when she would not face all this anymore..
she asks me if a day would come when she no longer would need to hide..
.she asks me if she would ever be able to overcome her fear of being taken in for a ride..
she asks me these questions and they are left unanswered
SHE is the WOMAN in me who no longer feels safe and free..

Wisdom

I feared being alone... until I learned to like myself.
I feared failure... until I realized that I only fail when I don't try.
I feared success... until I realized that I had to try in order to be happy with myself.
I feared peoples opinions... until I learned that people would have opinions about me anyway.
I feared rejection... until I learned to have faith in myself.
I feared pain... until I learned that it's necessary for growth.
I feared the truth... until I saw the ugliness in lies.
I feared life... until I experienced its beauty.
I feared my destiny... until I realized that I had the power to change my life.
I feared hate... until I realized it was nothing more than ignorance.
I feared love... until it touched my heart making the darkness fade into endless sunny days.
I feared ridicule... until I learned to laugh at myself.
I feared growing old... until I realized that I gained Wisdom everyday.
I feared the future... until I realized that life just kept getting better everyday.
I feared the past... until I realized that it could no longer hurt me.
I feared the darkness... until I saw the beauty of the starlight.
I feared the light... until I learned that the truth would give me strength.
I feared change... until I saw that even the most beautiful butterfly had to undergo a metamorphosis before it could fly.

Beautiful words

The most selfish one letter word………………..…….”I” -- Avoid it.
The most satisfying two letter word…………….….”WE” -- Use it
The most poisonous three letter word……………..”EGO” -- Kill it.
The most used four letter word……………………”LOVE” -- Value it.
The most pleasing five letter word……………….”SMILE” -- Keep it.
The fastest spreading six letter word…………….”RUMOUR” -- Ignore it.
The hardest working seven letter word………….”SUCCESS” -- Achieve it.
The most enviable eight letter word……………..”JEALOUSY” -- Distance it.
The most powerful nine letter word……………..”KNOWLEDGE” -- Acquire it.
The most essential ten letter word………………”FRIENDSHIP” -- Keep it

ATTITUDE THAT ONE NEEDS TO DEVELOP :

1. When Snake is alive, Snake eats Ants. When Snake is dead, Ants eat Snake.
Time can turn at any time. Don't neglect anyone in your life........ . ...

2. Never make the same mistake twice, There are so many new ones.
Try a different one each day.

3. A good way to change someone's attitude is to change your own.Because, the same sun that melts butter, also hardens clay!

Life is as we think, so think beautifully.

4. Life is just like a sea, we are moving without an end.

Nothing stays with us, what remains is just the memories of some people who touched us as Waves.

5. Whenever you want to know how rich you are?

Never count your currency, just try to Drop a Tear and count how many hands reach out to WIPE that- that is true richness.

6. Heart tells the eyes see less, because you see and I suffer lot.

Eyes replied, feel less because you feel and I cry a lot.

7. Never change your originality for the sake of others, because no one can play your role better than you.

So be yourself, because whatever you are, YOU are the best.

8. Baby mosquito came back after 1st time flying.His dad asked him "How do you feel?"He replied "It was wonderful, Everyone was clapping for me!"

Now that’s a Positive Attitude.